Does your phone or computer ever buffer?
You know that little circle just keeps turning and you keep waiting.
It can be a little frustrating at times, especially when it takes forever and nothing loads.
Sometimes I buffer too. In fact most of us do, and it isn’t really good for us.
As far as humans are concerned, buffering is what we do to avoid pain or a negative emotion. When we are sad and we eat all the sugary foods. When we are stressed and we veg out in front of the TV for hours. When we are lonely and we scroll through Facebook half of the day.
These are all forms of buffering.
Does it matter? Probably.
If we buffer so much that we aren’t able to stay present with our life and work through the emotions we are feeling, it can stifle our growth and cause us to become stuck in a place of suffering.
Buffering or avoiding emotion does not make our negative emotions go away, it just makes us not see or feel them for a time. Unfortunately, we feel worse after the buffering than we did before.
When we stop buffering we will experience temporary pain, but we are also able to stay present in our lives long enough to identify the root of the pain and find solutions.
When we stop buffering, we also start living the truth of our lives.
I’m still working on cutting out the buffering in my life and it isn’t easy, but I’m gonna keep trying.
What would your life look like if you gave up buffering?